Last weekend, I was blessed to be a part of our ladies group, City Sisters, as we had a sweet discussion about marriage. I thought I would share some of the advice given with you.
I am splitting it into two parts.
My dear sister-in-the-Lord, Ritchie Jordan, very sweetly shared her testimony and life lessons she has learned in her marriage.
Ritchie’s definition of submission is one of the best I have heard.
Submission: to willingly come under someone and lift them up
Isn’t that beautiful?
I know a lot of women (myself included) buck at the idea of submission. It doesn’t seem like a very empowering word. But in reality, it is! You have the power to lift your spouse up and help him be a better man! This is definitely something that I want to do for my husband!
The reality is that not everyone is happy in their marriages.
A lot of marriages are in a state of frustration.
I have talked with many women who tell me that they wish they had not chosen the man that they are married too. And if they could go back they would do it differently.
Yes, we would all do things differently if we could go back in time and know what we know now. But reality is we can’t and we shouldn’t dwell on those thoughts, because it is pointless and changes nothing. What we can change is our hearts and our mindset.
We need to change our views of our spouse from
“This is the man who I am stuck with…”
to
“This is the man who God gave me!”
Once our attitude changes we can begin to see what God wants for our marriage and not how miserable or frustrated we are.
The following is a perfectly worded acronym for a wife.
W- Warm up his life with your love
I- Improve his life as a helper
F- Follow his leadership with a willing heart
E- Esteem him highly with the utmost respect
One of the final statements that Ritchie made was this…
“Helping my husband helps me…and that allows me to help others.”
What a powerful statement!
We were created, as women, to be a “helpmeet”
Are you helping?
Or are you hurting?
I pray that we, as wives, will embrace our roles as “helpers” and submit {lift up} our spouses!
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