Mornings can be hard as a mom. Most days I wake up and immediately my head is spinning. Before I have even had my coffee… I am battling through lies that begin their vicious attack even before I have had my breakfast!
I didn’t realize how much these lies affected me as I started my day. My days were hard and long and frustrating. I had no idea that three lies before breakfast were bringing me down and keeping me from enjoying my day, my children, my life.
These are the three biggest lies I struggle to see through before breakfast.
1. The bags under my eyes are ugly
As I brush my teeth and look in the mirror, I evaluate my appearance. I see the bags under my eyes getting darker and bigger. And it makes me feel ugly. And because I am already judging myself so harshly, it is easy to continue with my weight and hair and everything else that doesn’t seem to measure up.
2. I am a failure because my house is a mess
I have kids. LOTS of kids. And it doesn’t take more than a few steps before finding fermenting sippy cups, dirty clothes, random shoes, toys, backpacks, legos, army men, blankets…. the list and piles go on… And in the morning I struggle… because I don’t want to wake up to a mess. I beat myself up for not staying up until the wee hours of the night getting my house put back in order and shiny and clean, ready to start a new day.
3. There is no time for my mile long “To-Do” List.
My “To Do” list is a mile long. And I always seem to forget to write down the most important items to remember. So many things to cross off. The sheer amount of check marks needed to be made today is so staggering overwhelming… I just want to crawl back in bed and hide under the covers!
The lies I listen to at the start of my day enable countless opportunities for more lies to creep in the remainder of the day.
Any one relate? Am I the only one attacked by lies? Maybe your lies are different. Maybe they come at a different time of the day. Whatever the lie… Whenever the time of day… Let me tell you the Truth that you can embrace before breakfast!
YOU are a Beautiful woman doing enough for your family with more strength and love and power than you realize you have!
It is sometimes hard to accept the truth. It is even harder to speak it to yourself.
1. The truth is I have some bags under my eyes. But they aren’t ugly. I am beautiful to my husband and children. They don’t see me as I harshly see myself. My sons think I am a princess and my husband sees me as his queen. I am the only one that sees the ugly. And when I believe the ugly…. I become the ugly.
2. You are NEVER a failure at home when your children feel loved. Embrace the “lived in” look at home. You have kids, there will always be dishes and laundry. Dust and cobwebs don’t determine love in your home.
3. The “To Do” list is important. I understand. But perhaps there are things on there that shouldn’t be putting as much pressure as you are allowing on you. Break it down into smaller bites and take only what you can chew. And please, don’t forget that you are a mom. And right there… That makes you a superhero! If you ran out of strength today, tomorrow you can try it again!
Before I eat my breakfast I have decide whether to believe the lies or embrace the truth. Some days the lies get me. But the more I embrace the truth. The more I recognize the lies and kick them in the butt!
As you make your breakfast tomorrow morning, I hope you identify the lies and the truth. Embrace that TRUTH! And if you need some help… I would be happy to help you see that truth!
YOU are a Beautiful woman doing enough for your family with more strength and love and power than you realize you have!
Much Love,
Keikilani
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I love this, especially the part about beauty. We are our toughest critics. Please don’t be so hard on yourself. If your kids are on the right track, that’s what matters.
Wonderful, true words. What you focus on, you find. Keep looking at the beauty and the love, and that’s what will come to the forefront in your life 🙂
You absolutely need to tell those lies to pipe down! #ManicMondays
Lovely post :). You are so very right though. We all seem to judge ourselves so harshly these days, and don’t step back and see all the things we actually get done. My To Do List gets longer everyday too, but I know I will get to it one day. xo
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This is such a lovely post! Why are women SO hard on themselves? We all do it don’t we? Good for you, turning it on it’s head and seeing things the way they *really* are and ignoring the ‘lies’. Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday — please could you pop our badge/url on your linky page — thanks x
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Beautiful words! Great stuff to read for moms out there! It truly empowers and make moms all over the world be more proud about themselves.
I love this! I’m guilty of #2 all the time. I hate waking up to my already messy home. But it’s a happy mess, right? Thanks for linking up at the Manic Mondays blog hop!
We all need this reminder. Every day. Thanks for linking with #TwinklyTuesday.