Always Say “I Love You” as Often as Possible {Lessons from 10 years of Marriage}

TEN YEARS!!!! How did ten years go by so fast? It seems just a few months ago I was stepping into my wedding dress to walk down the aisle to say “I do” and begin the greatest adventure of my LIFE! 

Jon and I met in college. It didn’t take very many dates before we were pretty head-over-heels in puppy love. One year after our first date we were engaged and a year after that, married and headed on a romantic honeymoon. And now, ten years later, we are even more in love and feeling strong and confident in our marriage. Our marriage has not been a bed of roses and smooth sailing. While I believe every marriage looks a little different, there are some lessons that I have learned in the last ten years that makes our marriage strong and I want to share them with you this month of October, our Anniversary Month. Hopefully, they will encourage and challenge you in your relationships.

The first thing that comes to mind that makes our marriage strong is three little words… “I love you.” Those words are pretty much said a billion times a week at our house. We don’t let a conversation, a parting of ways, a phone call, or a text message happen without “I Love You.” starting or ending it. 

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I have always been a romantic at heart. I love Pride & Prejudice by Jane Austin. The movie is especially my favorite. I think I have the SIX hour series memorized! One of my favorite parts is when Mr. Darcy quite abruptly tells Elizabeth Bennett… “You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.” **Swoon** It’s just classic romance at it’s finest! Bursting love that can’t be held in!

Of course, my life is not a fictional romance book, but Jon and I seem to burst if we don’t tell each other “I love you.” And I melt most of the time when I hear him say it. (I do also pretty much melt when Jon smiles at me people!) You can roll your eyes and think I am silly, but hearing “I love you” constantly from my partner in life is just a HUGE thing! It makes me secure in his love. It helps me remember how much I love him. It brings me back down to earth when I am an emotional wreck. Those three little words are a celebration when we are happy and a pick us up when we are down. 

Some days, I don’t want to say those words, or hear them. Because let’s be honest… I am human. But those days, I say them anyways, and I hear them anyways. And as I look back on the last 10 years, I am thankful that we said “I love you” on the hard days as well as the romantic ones. 

I plan on saying “I love you.” the next ten years and the next ten after that. Because there is an extreme lack of security in love in our culture and we need to bring “I LOVE YOU!” back!!! I am so thankful for every day that I have heard those words and know I can expect a LOT more of them in the future.

“I love you, Jon” 

Happy I love you‘s,
Keikilani

Ps. Stay tuned for more Lessons from 10 Years of Marriage!!!
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